Today You Die
February 7, 2010
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IMDB rating: 3.90 Plot: A crook with a conscience takes on the men who turned on him in this action thriller. Harlan Banks (Steven Seagal) is a world-class thief who has always picked his own jobs and tried to pull heists that would leave him room to help out others; he also has powerful psychic abilities and can punish a man simply with the powers of his mind. But the work keeps getting riskier, and at the urging of his girlfriend, Banks has decided to pull one final job, going in with some men who are planning a 20-million-dollar casino robbery in Las Vegas. Banks is double-crossed by his new partners, and while he gets away with the money, Banks also ends up behind bars. Now his fellow crooks want the cash and will do anything to get it, but Banks isn’t eager to part with a hard-earned dollar, and with the help of Ice Cool (Anthony Criss, aka hip-hop star Treach), he busts out of prison to claim what’s his. |
Actors: Seagal Steven,Criss Anthony ‘Treach’,Mancuso Nick,Miano Robert,Tighe Kevin,McShane Jamie,Turner Lawrence,Rice Brett,Mancuso Lance Jonathan,James Hawthorne,Frye David,Action,Crime,
Help me, please?!? My fiance lost his mother a while ago, and last night he had a set back…?!?!?
Ok, well, I’m 22, and fiance, Jakob, who’s 23, just lost his mom right before Christmas. He was really close with his mom… His dad died when he was only 2, so he was raised by only his mother. He’s a bit more on the feminine side because of this, but he’s also able to express his emotions, and understand mine, better than any other guy I’ve met, which I love. Anyways, he doesn’t even have ANY other extended family, or siblings, either… I’m the only one he has in his life, now, so I’ve really tried to be there for him. He’s gotten very clingy since he lost his mom. Don’t get me wrong, I’m totally fine with it, because I understand that he feels alone lately; he’s orphaned, without any other family, so obviously he’s going to be clingy with me…
Well, he’s been starting to smile a little and joke around again, which makes me really happy… but last night, my friend and I were at a dance convention, and I hurt my ankle and my wrist (I landed very unbalanced, and fell on my hand, and my ankle twisted)… she took me to the hospital and it turns out both my wrist and ankle are broken… but this was at almost midnight, and I had told Jakob I’d be home around 10:30. He called my cell phone a bunch of times, but obviously I didn’t know he was calling, and didn’t pick up. They put a cast on both, and I got sent home at almost 4 am. Jakob was awake, and he was freaking out. As soon as I came in, and my friend walked out the door, Jakob had a meltdown. He told me he thought something had happened to me and he might lose me, and have no one. He told me he sat in the living room staring at the wall, trying not to break down the entire night, because he thought he was going to be alone. It took about 45 minutes to get him to completely calm down, and stop crying. After that, he helped me into bed, but laid there awake for a long time (I did too because my ankle was bothering me). I finally got him to fall asleep around 6 am after gently running my fingers through his hair for almost an hour. He woke up at 8:30 am to make me breakfast, and all today, he was practically a zombie. He’s exhausted, his eyes are puffy from crying, and he has dark circles under his eyes. I don’t know what to do… I thought he was on the mend, but I feel like last night set him back a lot… What can I do to help him? What do I say?!
It sounds like he might need to talk to a therapist to work through all of this.
rets2618 | Feb 06, 2010
Grief is a process, it takes time to work through and although things will continue to get better as time goes on, he is in the worst stages of his grief right now. Most people take about 5 years to really work it out.
If you really care you will learn to understand that part of what he feels is a fear of being totally alone, he has said that out loud so he understands that. The way you show that you understand his fear is to do your best to not stress him. You knew that you were going to the hospital, a place people go to die by the way, so you should have taken a moment to call him when you were admitted and then again after the x-rays were read. That way he would know that you were OK and that someone was taking care to ensure that your stayed OK and then once you knew what was wrong you share that with him. It is unlikely that you will have the same sort of thing happen again and sorry to hear about the two breaks, that is just awful, but there will be other occasions when you run behind or plans change. Make sure that as soon as you know that plans are changing or that you are not going to be where he expects you to be that you call him and let him know you will be late. Then strongly suggest that he meet with a grief counselor so that he can work through some of his issues with another person or people who understand what he is going through.
Thea | Feb 06, 2010
Hi,While I think that it’s awesome of you (and lucky for Jakob) that you are so understanding, it’ s probably not going to be enough for you to try and get through such emotional turmoil on your own.Perhaps you could suggest that you both see a counselor together and then help him to talk things out with a professional.He has obviously had a very hard life so far and without the "tools" to handle these past situations he will have a hard time handling even something as small as you coming home late. You were preoccupied with taking care of you and sometimes that ’s going to happen. There is nothing wrong with that.I believe that together with a counselor you will both gain a lot of insight as to what’s going on with him, with you, and your relationship in general.Since you have so much love and such a strong foundation a therapist can only make your relationship stronger. Best of luck to you both.
Cami P | Feb 06, 2010
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